Thank you for sharing this. As a mother of two grown children I have struggled with stepping back and letting them make their own choices. I have failed as often as I have succeeded but I keep at it. Now I need to extend that to all the other people in my life.
Thom, Yes. Respecting choices based on another person’s cultural life as well as conscious choice. I give my opinion much too much priority based on ego … broadly defined…as well as parents who craved and sought answers to what the saw as problems their children displayed.
My older sister is ‘a fixer’ in that category. I am as well. This is a serious interpersonal flaw.
However, i know I can change this reflex because I’ve lived this long only because of accepting and making changes. We never stop.
You have given me something to think hard on & ponder! As a Mother & Grandmother stepping back from advising your loved ones when you are concerned about their choices is difficult. I have gotten better over the years & I think that respect for their own choices & biting my tongue has led to wonderful relationships with friends & family. I will try to locate a copy of the book☺️
This reminds me of my mother. She was in the hospital getting treatment for leukemia when she had a stroke. She somehow made it know she didn't want any kind of intervention to lengthen her life, and we respected her opinion, never trying to talk her out of it or questioning it in any way. My parents were very hands off of our lives. Sometimes I wished they had given us some advice and parameters, but they didn't. We kids made plenty of mistakes in our lives that might have been avoided if they had imparted such, but that's the way it went
In an environment we know to involve close community relations, where everyone behaves according to this principle, it makes more sense to me than what we face in a thoroughly disrupted, commercialized society of extreme mobility and every enticement to irresponsibility. We are currently witness to a society where privilege is grossly lopsided and abusive, turned from interpersonal responsibility to commercial fantasies of hedonic desire, we are faced with annihilation, and I reject that.
Thank you for sharing this. As a mother of two grown children I have struggled with stepping back and letting them make their own choices. I have failed as often as I have succeeded but I keep at it. Now I need to extend that to all the other people in my life.
Thom, Yes. Respecting choices based on another person’s cultural life as well as conscious choice. I give my opinion much too much priority based on ego … broadly defined…as well as parents who craved and sought answers to what the saw as problems their children displayed.
My older sister is ‘a fixer’ in that category. I am as well. This is a serious interpersonal flaw.
However, i know I can change this reflex because I’ve lived this long only because of accepting and making changes. We never stop.
if I do, it’s by by time for me on this planet.🌎
You have given me something to think hard on & ponder! As a Mother & Grandmother stepping back from advising your loved ones when you are concerned about their choices is difficult. I have gotten better over the years & I think that respect for their own choices & biting my tongue has led to wonderful relationships with friends & family. I will try to locate a copy of the book☺️
This reminds me of my mother. She was in the hospital getting treatment for leukemia when she had a stroke. She somehow made it know she didn't want any kind of intervention to lengthen her life, and we respected her opinion, never trying to talk her out of it or questioning it in any way. My parents were very hands off of our lives. Sometimes I wished they had given us some advice and parameters, but they didn't. We kids made plenty of mistakes in our lives that might have been avoided if they had imparted such, but that's the way it went
- Karen Cooper
What an extraordinary challenge...
In an environment we know to involve close community relations, where everyone behaves according to this principle, it makes more sense to me than what we face in a thoroughly disrupted, commercialized society of extreme mobility and every enticement to irresponsibility. We are currently witness to a society where privilege is grossly lopsided and abusive, turned from interpersonal responsibility to commercial fantasies of hedonic desire, we are faced with annihilation, and I reject that.